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alex sir, we cant express the amount of help you have provided with these in therapy session and tools and points, a big thank you from heart <3

Man, you are a genius!

Therapy has Never ever given me anything!

My therapy messed me up. She didn't understand that I was disassociated, was numb and that I couldn't access or process my feelings She said it was okay to be angry, and so I released anger all of the time, and not all of my other emotions. Had I known I would have handled a lot more situations powerfully and authentically and not from fear and rage, the very emotion that numbed me as a child that came ftom my family. I left, and now in daily prayer am counselled and guided in a calm, connected, present and abundant state of being. I had to undo 2 years of bad therapy that really messed me up.. badly.

I think the main problem with Therapy is trying to find a good Therapist, and the money you will spend trying to find one. I've never understood how 'depressed' people, who may not be working, are supposed to afford good therapy when some charge extortionate amounts - maybe they only want to attract a certain class of client? You may say there is 'free' therapy on the NHS, but this is likely to be the CBT 'quick fix' kind, and you will have to take what you are offered. In my very humble opinion, it takes time to trust and feel comfortable with a complete stranger (Therapist) in order to let yourself be completely vulnerable. In fact, traumatised people ARE vulnerable, and in the hands of a bad therapist, can be re-traumatised, ending up worse than they started, both emotionally, financially and with more trust issues. Some can see the Therapist as some kind of God, and for this very reason, the wrong kind of people are attracted to the profession. The so-called Therapeutic relationship can be yet another abusive relationship for vulnerable people. Who is there in the room with you to protect you from this? Yes, we have to learn to protect ourselves from abusive relationships, but if the Therapist is abusive, then what? I'm thinking the subject of abusive, toxic therapists is taboo, but toxic people live and work in all professions, and Therapy is no different. I don't know what the answer is, but there must be a better way to help vulnerable people in a safe way.

SOO helpful, thank you! This for me is part of learning to be in my body and actually feel things rather than living purely in my head. It's really rebuilding stuff! Thank you

I had therapy for 2.5 years with a fantastic therapist in Bath. I could have gone on forever to be honest, and only very recently stopped. The reason was one you mentioned in your video. The goal was to learn to meet my own needs, and whilst she would have continued to be very helpful, I realised that I was relying on her too much and needed to brave it on my own. So I guess I would say that one of the downsides of therapy could be the reliance on the therapist, which might stop you from helping yourself. For me, I think I could have easily just taken the 'easier' option and carried on.

I recently realised there might be too much focus on negativity in therapy, especially for people who already have trust issues. It seems like sometimes good things might be seen as the client is hiding from the truth, whereas negative things might be seen as the client is in touch with "true feelings".

The only bad therapist I had was the one who was an anti vaxxer during the pandemic. She wasn't allowed to come to work, government mandate, thus letting people down, abandonment. Her real problem was she would never admit to doing anything wrong. Greetings from Australia. My problem was holding back in getting angry with her for fear of losing her.

My first experience of therapy was in the early nineties, (I know the field has moved on considerably thank goodness). I was 17, had lost my father very suddenly on my 10th birthday and as a result was suffering with bulimia and extreme drug abuse. My mum borrowed a considerable amount of money to send me to the "best" clinic in London, The Priory. I was repeatedly told my mum was responsible for my condition and habits. I also felt judged and guilty for my behaviours. As I result I left the clinic early and rebelled by leaning more into my behaviours. My second and third experience with therapists left me feeling helpless as I would enter and was simply asked over and over "And how does that make you feel?" I never once left with the knowledge of why I was how I was or a practical tool on how best to manage my emotions, thoughts or behaviours.. Now as a Life Coach in training, and after years of self-analysis and studies, (I completed Alex's "Reset your Nervous System" - a highly recommended practical self- help course), I am determined to offer clients practical advice and tools on how to manage their lives and their tendencies in as short a period of time as possible, so my clients learn about themselves, and leave every session with real-life management tools to help them lead a healthier more content life. Therapy in the traditional sense, particularly CBT, lends itself to years and years of expensive talk -therapy and dependence on the therapist, making the therapist richer and the client dependent. This needs to change. Yes, therapy has a place, but it needs to lead to self-sufficiency and progress for the client - just as Alex says in this video. Thanks Alex - your course has quite literally changed my life and is allowing me to pass on practical helpful tools to clients, changing their lives and those they come into contact with.

Feeling manipulated--my wonderful (really!) therapist uses the trappings of friendship to break in, but in reality is not my friend and will never be. When you have attachment wounds, this is tough.

As another has said dependence. When don’t feel you can cope without it.

Becoming dependent on therapist to hold me and help me disarm triggers

I had a therapist that just fell asleep ( of course he said he had not ) I told him I had trust issues and that I had met someone who was pushing for sex but I had a gut feeling not to trust him ..my Therapist just said "well you have to trust someone someday " I took his words and a few week later I told him I was pregnant ..his jaw dropped ..I said well you told me to trust .looking back I was so messed up .I kept my baby and brought him up alone .words are powerful and especially when a client is confused .

I think there are actually two different beliefs on what gaslighting is. The original one as depicted in the 1940s play. I think also, there is the new version where it excuses someone's accountability to function with other people and instead turn absolutely everything back on the other person. Its actually reverse gaslighting.

Someone mentioned ads, but I listened on 5/14/24 and there were NO ad interruptions. Lovely, quick reset, thank you

JESUS OUR CHRIST IS THE ONLY WAY OUT. 🙏❤️🥹❤️🥹❤️🙏

Being invisible

I need help…my family is uneducated mental health people who think they know the answers, and say things that are SO painful! Even name calling….i really need positive people in my life.

I love this perspective! Rick Hanson mentioned something complimentary about the "noble pony"and "necrotic pony" going down the same path and being able to recognize the difference between the two.

Growing up with learning disabilities I became very familiar with feeling uncomfortable or dumb when trying to learn things. This has been an incredible gift to my personal development journey. I don't love being miserable, but I'm very practiced in getting uncomfortable in the interest of growth.

Original tx.. just down The Journey training..heloful

Fantastic and insightful question.....was achieving things....

I needed this today, lot of things and thougts in my mind, I needed this moment of peace and pause. Thanks! 😊

I have all of these. Real fun

It is sad because i have all the coping mechanisms you mentioned but cant pinpoint my childhood trauma, aside from when my mom and dad used to go into physical altercations. The main reason i cant remember much is because my memory is very bad, so bad that i barely remember much from my childhood or before age 20.

Thank you for pointing out the positive in the negatives, I had never looked at it that way. People pleasing and emotionally caretaking my parents to keep the peace were mine, and now that I have worked through some anger and am always working on boundaries, I find that in difficult situations it helps me adjust more easily and also keep the peace until the situation is resolved. It has helped immensely to know that it's not my job and I don't have to do it to be safe, though.

Because of not being able to express anger as a child, I have always lived an adjusted life, they always call me sweet but I long to learn to express my opinion. By the way, the suppressed anger is still so strong in my body.

Yes because society is also telling u cohersive things like "respect your parent". Which is ridiculous when so many children are emotionally neglectful and frankly bully their own children.

Hi Alex I don’t think any of them were met for me. Parents were there but not emotionally, bullied relentlessly, poor boundaries. Thanks for giving a strategy to follow

My answer: Daily exercise with weightlifting, Magnesium, Ashwagada, and Holy Basil.

I talk to people I trust, I pray to God, and I write.

Suffering from somniphobia

Unfortunately all the above

Hi ! It was a great video. Can you help me ... When I meditate, stored trauma inside my body gets to the surface very intensely, and my mood changes suddenly, and I go back to my old traumatic identity full of grief for 12 hours, and after one day I can return to my new trauma free jolly identity. When these stored emotions arise, how can I handle them effectively! Because I cant help myself but to outburst my anger!

I like this... wish you could go deeper a bit, I escaped to a fantasy world as a child, bed time was my favorite, I felt like I was recharging and reorganize 😅

I learned to be absolute silent and smidig. ( I starten talking when I was 27 years old) alternativ än emotional breakdown.

Oh. Im 4/4. Damn.

Wooooowwwww!

Reading peoples mood/ emotions.

Yes shape shifting. Extremely adaptable to any/every situation. Trustworthy. Loyal to a fault.

Wordy videos give me trauma. Even when you speed it up to 2X.

As a child and adult till her death I used to walk on eggshells around my mother. Now I can read people very easily. Funnily enough never used that skill of mine. It felt dishonest somehow....

I think it's a similar thing for me. Shapeshifting. Thank you for putting up such positive and warming videos, it really makes me feel like I should be a lot kinder to myself and not so bashing and frustrated with myself.

Appreciate you sharing this.

I really appreciate this. It truly resonates with me. Thank you!

Wow, I love this perspective so much. I learned to be a people pleaser, to have no personal boundaries, and to be afraid. Now that I'm getting much better at having boundaries it's helping me feel safer. I don't have to please everyone, but I am skilled at getting along with most people. I see the great benefits of that, as long as mutual boundaries are being kept.

Caring for others and not caring for myself. I have been working on finding the balance between being caring towards others and being attuned to my own needs.

Always seeking something outside of myself to feel ok was because I was so disregulated since childhood, but that seeking was so helpful when I came down with Fibro, CFS, etc. and lead me through my search to find Somatic Experiencing and Dr. John Sarno's work (emotional work (inner child, somatic work, parts work)) that lead me to heal these painful and debilitating conditions. I love that I no longer have to seek now!!! I am still curious, still want to grow and expand but not looking for something outside of myself to feel ok.

I learnt to be independent and raise myself..now I'm very strong and resilient...